Who doesn't want their story to end happily ever after? "Isn’t that what we all desire: to be the heroes and heroines of our own stories; to triumph over adversity; to experience life in all its beauty; and, in the end, to live happily ever after?" (Uchtdorf). As we all know, there is a lot of work to be done between our Once Upon a Time and our Happily Ever After. We all face our own hardships and misfortunes. Occasionally, when a marriage doesn't meet our expectations we may consider divorce. The purpose of this post is not to lecture you on divorce I am not the most reliable source on saving your marriage. Rather, I want to show ways for us to fight for our marriages. However, I do realize that despite our best efforts divorce must occur. I believe in heroes and that in the end good always triumphs over evil. I encourage you to heed the words of an unknown author which are, "when you feel like quitting think about why you started."
James E. Faust said, "I have strong feelings about what is not provocation for breaking the sacred ovenants of marriage. Surely it is not simply 'mental distress' nor 'personality differences,' nor 'having grown apart,' nor 'having fallen our of love.' This is especially so where there are children" (Hawkins et al). Just as marriage is a major decision in our lives, so is the decision to get a divorce and end a relationship that we were so desperately committed to.
Faust also taught that we should provide time to decide about divorce. We should not decide to get a divorce in the spur of the moment. A lot of consideration should go into such an important choice. For example, "many people divorce after a short period of problems and make their dicesion quickly, based almost solely on emotion" (Hawkins et al). Often regret stirs in those who have been divorced.
I believe that in many cases, divorce can be avoided. For many considering divorce "the cause is not incompatibility but sefishness. The first step is not separation but reformation" (Hawkins et al).
The Family: A Proclamation to the world states, "Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities." As we work hard to create a loving atmosphere in our homes, happiness and joy will begin to abound.
I believe that as we work through our trials together as spouses, our children will learn and grow from our examples. Solving problems as a team and not defaulting to divorce demonstrates the worth of marriage. Just as Superman always saves Lois from her doom, we can be the heroes in our marriages. We may not be faster than a speeding bullet, more powerful than a locomotive, or able to leap tall buildings in a single bound, but we are shaping the future as we teach our children right from wrong. Through our examples, we can teach our children that in the end good triumphs over evil. That, despite the trials we may face, we can reach our happily ever after.
Faust also taught that we should provide time to decide about divorce. We should not decide to get a divorce in the spur of the moment. A lot of consideration should go into such an important choice. For example, "many people divorce after a short period of problems and make their dicesion quickly, based almost solely on emotion" (Hawkins et al). Often regret stirs in those who have been divorced.
I believe that in many cases, divorce can be avoided. For many considering divorce "the cause is not incompatibility but sefishness. The first step is not separation but reformation" (Hawkins et al).
The Family: A Proclamation to the world states, "Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities." As we work hard to create a loving atmosphere in our homes, happiness and joy will begin to abound.
I believe that as we work through our trials together as spouses, our children will learn and grow from our examples. Solving problems as a team and not defaulting to divorce demonstrates the worth of marriage. Just as Superman always saves Lois from her doom, we can be the heroes in our marriages. We may not be faster than a speeding bullet, more powerful than a locomotive, or able to leap tall buildings in a single bound, but we are shaping the future as we teach our children right from wrong. Through our examples, we can teach our children that in the end good triumphs over evil. That, despite the trials we may face, we can reach our happily ever after.
Sources:
Hawkins, A., Dollahite, D., &
Draper, T. (2012). Should I Keep Trying to Work It Out? Sacred and Secular
Perspectives on the Crossroads of Divorce. In Successful Marriages and Families: Proclamation Principles and Research
Perspectives. Provo, Utah: BYU Studies and School of Family Life, Brigham
Young University.
The Family: A Proclamation to the
World. (1995, September 23). Retrieved October 29, 2015, from
https://www.lds.org/topics/family-proclamation
Uchtdorf, D. (2010, April 1). Your
Happily Ever After. Retrieved October 22, 2015, from https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2010/04/your-happily-ever-after?lang=eng
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